Couples Not Sleeping Together

There are a variety of reasons why couples may not be sleeping together. Of course, the most obvious reason would be that they were having a bit of a disagreement over something or they could be right in the middle of an all-out brawl.

If you and your partner are not sleeping together due to a minor tiff or even a major fight, don’t worry. These things should work themselves out in time. Sometimes all it takes is to just start sleeping together and things will work themselves out naturally.

However, there are other reasons why couples don’t sleep together. Maybe your partner snores too much. Sleeping habits can keep people apart and if nothing is done about it, the problem will simply go on and on.

If your partner’s sleeping habits interfere with your own sleep then your health may be at risk. Those who snore excessively also have a higher risk of negative health effects. Sleeping apart from each other may seem like a natural way to solve the problem but this should only be a short term solution. There are other steps that you can take to remedy the situation.

Men snore more than women. In general, about 20% of women snore. About 40% of men snore. Snoring is a problem that can be fixed. You might find temporary relief by simply nudging your partner and getting him to roll over (we say ‘him’ only because of the numbers mentioned above). Ear plugs are another way to find temporary relief.

Excessive snoring is not something that should be ignored. It can be an indicator of a more serious health problem. Sleep apnea affects millions of people and can be an indicator of a health problem that needs to be addressed by a physician.

Another problem that keeps couples sleeping apart is the heat index differential. Typically, this is when the woman can’t seem to get warm and the man is always too hot. In some cases, it is just the opposite. Either way, when one partner likes it hot and the other likes it cold, the difference in opinion can lead to couples sleeping apart from each other.

The solution to this problem is to compromise and adjust. One partner selects their ideal temperature for the room and then compares that to the other partners ideal temperature. Set the temp right in the middle so that you are splitting the difference. Then subtract 4 or 5 degrees because it is easier to keep warm than it is to cool down.

The partner who likes it warm can simply use more blankets. The partner who likes it cold can wear less clothing to bed. You can also use separate blankets.

Once you have figured out all of the physical differences it is then up to you to solve all of the relationship issues which may be keeping you apart at night. If you and your partner are not sleeping together then half the battle has been won once you have made it possible to at least feel comfortable physically. Your emotional turmoil is another story.

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