Jealousy is a Red Flag
There is almost nothing that can kill a relationship quicker than jealousy. Jealousy can be a big red flag that shows that a relationship is in serious trouble.
The trick is to nip it in the bud. The first thing that you need to do is recognize that you or your partner have become jealous Once you recognize that this problem exists, you can start to do something about it. Overcoming your jealous feelings takes many steps.
If you or your partner are in denial that you suffer from jealousy, it is not very likely that there is anything that you can do to help the situation. So, by far, the most important step is admitting that there is a problem with the relationship in the first place.
If you or your partner are suffering from feelings of jealousy then you need to find a way to boost self esteem. Try to take an inventory of the things that you are doing well in your life and be honest with yourself! You really must be doing some things right.
The better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to push aside the feelings of jealousy in your relationship. As you gradually shift the way you feel about yourself toward the positive end of the scale, you will begin to notice that your jealous feelings will slip away.
Two of the tools that you can use in order to help shift your way of thinking are hypnosis and meditation. Another method that people have successfully used is to separate themselves from there daily dose of the news. Have you noticed how negative the news can be? This negatively can grow on you like moss.
You cannot control the stuff that happens in the world. When you are bombarded with negative news, you start to feel helpless. You need to start to feel positive about yourself and this can be impossible if you feel that you have no control over what happens around you.
Avoid negative news and also avoid negative people. If you can try to surround yourself with positive people then their positively will start to rub off on you. In time you will be able to feel more positive about yourself and this, in turn, will help cut down on your jealous feelings.
Start noticing when you have feelings of jealousy. Everyone knows that it is possible to change what happens in your dreams right? You can do the same thing with feelings of jealousy. Once you notice these feelings coming over you, simply shift the focus to something more positive. When you start feeling jealous, think of some of the reasons why you are good.
Forget about trying to get revenge. When it comes to a relationship, revenge is a dish that is best not served at all. After all, you already know that it’s a bad idea to burn your bridges.
Finally, find someone that you can talk to about your feelings of jealousy. Just voicing your feelings is an act that can allow jealousy to disappear or be reduced in significance. Keep in mind that the person that you are jealous of is not the best candidate for this conversation.
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